لا تُشْرِكَنَّ في رَأْيِكَ جَباناً يُضْعفُكَ عَنِ الْأَمْرِ وَ يُعَظّمُ عَلَيْكَ مَا لَيْسَ بِعَظيمٍ
Do not get advice from a coward. He will discourage you and exaggerate those challenges which can be overcome.
In this quote the Imam is recommending leaders (whether in business, politics or the military) to avoid taking advice from those who are timid or pessimists. At the same time, he’s describing the psychology of a person with a negative mentality, who’s always looking at the “empty half of the glass”. And how this person might spread his negativity to others.
آفة العقل الهوى
uncontrolled emotions are the blight of the mind
This quote is one of the early definitions of emotional intelligence. Have a look at the modern definition.
رَضيَ بالذُّلّ مَن كَشَف ضُرَّه لغيرِه
He who tells his difficulties to others should expect humiliation.
In Islam, it’s considered bad practice by a Muslim to complain to others about the difficulties he’s going through. First, his complaints should be directed to Allah in the form prayers & supplication, because Allah is the infinite power able to ease or eliminate those difficulties. Secondly, instead of just complaining, a Muslim should actively work to alleviate those difficulties, therefore, transforming the challenge of hardship to a positive changing force. Thirdly, people usually don’t like a person who’s constantly complaining and spreading negativity. Rather, they like someone who is positive and spreading hope. Therefore, complaining to others not only could have no effect, one could get ridiculed and humiliated by doing so.
Translation of this quote was inspired by this sermon (in Arabic).