لاتَكُونَنَّ مِمَّنْ لاتَنْفَعُهُ المَوْعِظَةُ إلاّ إذا بالَغت في إيلامِهِ ، فَإنَّ العاقِلَ يَتَّعِظُ بِالأدَبِ ، وَ البَهائِمَ لاتَرْتَدِعُ إلاّ بِالضَّرْبِ
Don’t be like those who heed advice only when it hurts them. Because the prudent learns from advice, while beasts are deterred only by beating.
رَضيَ بالذُّلّ مَن كَشَف ضُرَّه لغيرِه
He who tells his difficulties to others should expect humiliation.
In Islam, it’s considered bad practice by a Muslim to complain to others about the difficulties he’s going through. First, his complaints should be directed to Allah in the form prayers & supplication, because Allah is the infinite power able to ease or eliminate those difficulties. Secondly, instead of just complaining, a Muslim should actively work to alleviate those difficulties, therefore, transforming the challenge of hardship to a positive changing force. Thirdly, people usually don’t like a person who’s constantly complaining and spreading negativity. Rather, they like someone who is positive and spreading hope. Therefore, complaining to others not only could have no effect, one could get ridiculed and humiliated by doing so.
Translation of this quote was inspired by this sermon (in Arabic).
شَيْئانِ لايَعْرِفُ فَضْلَهُما إلاّ مَنْ فَقَدَهُما الشَّبابُ وَالْعافِيَةُ
Nobody knows the value of these two things until they are gone: youth and health.
ثَلاثٌ لا يَهْنَأُ لِصاحِبِهِنَّ عَيْشٌ : الحِقْدُ ، وَ الْحَسَدُ ، وَ سُوءُ الْخُلْق
Three traits you cannot live in happiness if you have them: hatred, envy and ill manners.
أبْغَضُ الخَلائِقِ إلَى اللّهِ المُغْتابُ
He who backbites is the most abhorred creature by Allah.
Backbiting is a sin and is mentioned in the Holy Quran in the following translated verse:
O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it.