آفة العقل الهوى
uncontrolled emotions are the blight of the mind
This quote is one of the early definitions of emotional intelligence. Have a look at the modern definition.
لاتَكُونَنَّ مِمَّنْ لاتَنْفَعُهُ المَوْعِظَةُ إلاّ إذا بالَغت في إيلامِهِ ، فَإنَّ العاقِلَ يَتَّعِظُ بِالأدَبِ ، وَ البَهائِمَ لاتَرْتَدِعُ إلاّ بِالضَّرْبِ
Don’t be like those who heed advice only when it hurts them. Because the prudent learns from advice, while beasts are deterred only by beating.
رَضيَ بالذُّلّ مَن كَشَف ضُرَّه لغيرِه
He who tells his difficulties to others should expect humiliation.
In Islam, it’s considered bad practice by a Muslim to complain to others about the difficulties he’s going through. First, his complaints should be directed to Allah in the form prayers & supplication, because Allah is the infinite power able to ease or eliminate those difficulties. Secondly, instead of just complaining, a Muslim should actively work to alleviate those difficulties, therefore, transforming the challenge of hardship to a positive changing force. Thirdly, people usually don’t like a person who’s constantly complaining and spreading negativity. Rather, they like someone who is positive and spreading hope. Therefore, complaining to others not only could have no effect, one could get ridiculed and humiliated by doing so.
Translation of this quote was inspired by this sermon (in Arabic).
شَيْئانِ لايَعْرِفُ فَضْلَهُما إلاّ مَنْ فَقَدَهُما الشَّبابُ وَالْعافِيَةُ
Nobody knows the value of these two things until they are gone: youth and health.